That Time When I Used to Blog

The title of this post says it all.....

Do you remember that time I used to blog?


Honestly, I don't really either.

But, here I am. Back at it.... sort of. This is a piddly excuse for a get back on it post, but I promise some new things soon!! Please be sure to "follow" the blog to get the newest stuff!!


Until next time sweet friends....

Totes Real Tuesdays

Well, look who it is! I'm back for another exciting edition of 

Totes Real Tuesday

Where you post a few things about your week or yourself that are totally real and down and dirty - something to keep you true to yourself and your intended purpose of blogging. To encourage us all to give up the need to be "as" 's - as good as, as crafty as, as skinny as, as witty as, as many followers as - anyone other than ourselves.

If you want to join me in the keep it real crusade, follow these steps:
1.Follow Me!
2. Link up below
3. Spill your gutsies :)


1. Those pictures are STILL against my wall. Seriously. What is wrong with me??

2. I got a new phone book two weeks ago. It's still on my front porch where the delivery man left it.

3. This is my current mode of organization at my office. I will soon pick all of those folders up from their separated piles and put them back in one big pile and then go through them and work on some and separate them into piles again and then pick them up and put them back in one pile and then go through them.... and, you get it.

4. I got angry yesterday. I just had a sort of "meh" day after a really good morning and then I started thinking and I got a little angry. I got angry about a lot of the decisions that I have made in my life and for not listening to others and, even myself when I knew something wasn't right. I got mad that I "wasted" (a strong word that probably isn't really true, but it's what I felt yesterday) at least 3 years of my life in a miserable existence. And I got mad that here I am at 33 and feeling a little hopeless about meeting someone who is just right for me. Everyone is so "grown up" at this point in their life and I feel like I'm still floundering around like a 20 something. Today is a better day, but still, the anger is lingering there. Trying to continue to take it one day at a time and just relish in finally being able to say I fell a lot more like the "real" Christy :) 

What about you sweet friends? Got anything to add to keep life "totes real"? Link up and tell me about!

Saturday Smiles (on Sunday)

I had such a fantastic Saturday! It was a busy one too - hence the Saturday Smiles post a day late! :)

:) My day started with a trip to the ATL to meet up with my precious niece Rivers. >>> for those who do t know the backstory, Rivs was born when I was 12 years old. My mom kept her most of the time while my sister and brother in law worked. When I graduated from high school I moved in with my sister, BIL and Rivers and lived with them for almost four years. She's my heart and as she's grown, it's evident that we are kindred spirits in many ways>>>> 

Rivers is working away from home all summer at Shocco Springs in Alabama. We both took a 2 hr and some odd minute trip and met up at Ikea. 

(Ikea can be a bit over stimulating - especially to two girls from small town Alabama!)

:) even though Rivers and I were hundreds of miles away from the rest of our family, we still got to sing happy birthday to our great niece/cousin 

:) We ate lunch at The Varsity - Our first time! yummy.fatty.goodness! 

(www.thevarsity.com)

We were pretty happy with our food! 

:) This amazing place

(www.parisonponce.com) 

:) I found this sweet girl to start my vintage photo/sign collage in my bathroom. 

  

   I love her! And she is perfect for my bathroom and I have a whole blog post planned on what those four words "just as you are" mean to me.

:) I did this after I got home from my trip:

 

It was a short run with a lot of walking (the onion rings from The Varsity may have held me back some!) but it was on a trail and it was muddy and I loved it! 

So so many things to smile about yesterday! Hope all of you had the same! 

Until next time - which I promise will not be a whole month from now!!

Christy

What I'm Loving Wednesday - The Touchy Feely Edition

Oops... I just saw that my last post was on May 21! What in the world?! I've been super busy lately! I have had lots of experiences to blog about just haven't sat down to do it yet. Forgive me?
(that 1 follower that I have?)

Well, here it is Wednesday - one of my favorite post days! I'm linking up with Jamie again for

Here are some things that I'm loving today!

1. I'm loving that my mom and dad are coming to visit today! They left this morning and are headed up from Alabama. It's about a 7 hour drive, but my daddy has already informed me that they will be "taking our time" and will just get here when they get here. I talked him into staying one day more than he usually does, so hooray for me! I love it when they visit and I think that they actually have a good time when they come. For those of you who don't know my parents - my daddy is NOT the traveling kind :) He is definitely a homebody. They once drove 3 1/2 hours to visit me in college: they got there, we went to lunch, and they left right after to go back home :) Needless to say, a four day stay is a big win for me! Being the baby may have a teensy bit to do with it!

I'm looking forward to taking these two on  a trip to see the gypsy houses and tour the "Peach Capital of the World", see the lake at full pool (the first time in 3 years!), do some major "junking", getting some help with some things around the house, and most of all - headed to Charleston on Saturday to visit with my sister and her family! Fun times with the Bells.

2. I'm loving that my house is clean - at least for a few days! {See #1}

3. I'm loving this picture of my sweet greats.

Kellan G (23 mos), Brooklee G(3.10), Sage M (4.3), Hampton G(2.3)

And next year there will be two more! Sadie Quinn G (eta. Sept 2013) and baby boy M (eta July/Aug 2013)  

This was taken at the beach and they were obviously very tired of having pictures made. But, I think you can still see how gorgeous they are! I love them and miss them like crazy. 

4. I'm loving that my God thought enough of me to form a path that lead me to meet one of the most special  little girls He ever made. She is a light and a gift to everyone who knows her - and she has the most adorable toes I have ever, ever seen : > This girl has been through so much in her six years and will most likely endure a few more bumpy spots in the road. However, this girl is such a fighter. She wages every battle with the.best.smile.in.the.world. and without even knowing it, she inspires me to never give up. I often question the choices that I made that led me to be here in Augusta, GA, but when I look back, I can see that one of the main reasons for me to be here was so that my life could be blessed by knowing her and her amazing family. 

5. Finally, I'm loving that we all have these promises: 

                                                     

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Totes Real Tuesday

In an effort to always keep it totally (or "totes" as all the cool kids say) real here in blog land, I'm hosting a once a week blog party!

Totes Real Tuesdays

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Where you post a few things about your week or yourself that are totally real and down and dirty - something to keep you true to yourself and your intended purpose of blogging. To encourage us all to give up the need to be "as" 's - as good as, as crafty as, as skinny as, as witty as, as many followers as - anyone other than ourselves.

If you want to join me in the keep it real crusade, follow these steps:
1.Follow Me!
2. Link up below
3. Spill your gutsies :)


1. The pictures are still against my wall.

2. I have a few totally irrational fears: blood clots, tires blowing out on the interstate, tires blowing up when you put air in them, and cars exploding when you fill them up with gas. (yes, that's a lot of things blowing up)

I keep them mostly at bay.... the worst is the blood clot one. I"m pretty sure that for 1 or 2  minutes every day I am convinced that the pain in my leg or arm is a blood clot and if I move it will run straight to my heart, but I've had enough practice with it to talk myself out of it and move on.
Anyway,  last weekend after dinner with my friends, I noticed my car tire was low (that's a whole other story there, by the way). My friend Katy - who may be the sweetest, kindest, and most understanding person I've ever met - willingly followed me to the air pump and put air in my tire for me.  She didn't blow up, amazingly.

Do you still want to be my friend with all that crazy?

3. I love my job. I meet some of the most amazing people. It can also be heart breaking and infuriating. In a strange twist - one that many of you will not understand - my job has also made me a bit of a "special needs snob". What's that? It's the idea that I sometimes take on that people who have different abilities than the "norm" - or special needs - and those people who have close personal relationships with them are in a way, "better" than people who do not. That sounds horrible and I know it's not true, as no one person or group is ever truly better than another, but really, you are missing out. Determination, strength, heart, and hope is abundant with the children I work with and their families. The following is an email that I got this weekend from a mother of one of my patients. She had taken her daughter to her first ever birthday party for a friend and things did not go well. She sent this as a plea to her friends and acquaintances as a plea for them to teach their children about how to respond to others. It's something I think everyone should read:

I had a very  heart breaking situation this weekend. Therefore I am writing to you to ask you to join me in something special. I am writing this email to ask you as your colleague/friend/someone  you know from past or present,  to spend a couple of minutes talking to your children, grandchildren, nephews, nieces or any children you are close to,  about other children with disabilities.  I am saying children because only they can change the way things are perceived, they are the future. 

The most difficult thing about raising  a child with disability or special needs is not the childs' disability as the majority of people think. The most difficulty is coping with other people's reactions. This weekend, it was the first time I took my little girl to a classmate's birthday party and another child tore my heart apart with her rude comments to my daughter.  She did not know better, but her mom did. She could have talked to her child about children who need more help in different areas.

I believe we can make this life much easier for people with challenges by normalizing our attitude, by not being dismissive or being overly kind. If you are wondering why I am sharing this with you, because you are one of the few people I know and you may have a positive impact! I ask you to spend a couple of minutes of your time this week or next week talking to the children around you to teach them about children with different disabilities and challenges so they are aware and accepting not pitying or dismissive.

If you don't know how to handle a situation when you see someone with special needs then practice it in front of the mirror. The way you look, the way you offer help or start a conversation or dismiss someone can be a whole weekend of tears for another family. There is nothing sad about a disability when one feels belonged and welcomed. I hope no one is reading this email feeling sad about my daughter. Because she is the luckiest, toughest, sweetest kid: ) I would feel sad for people who don't know how to teach their children about other children with challenges. If it requires practice please practice it in front of the mirror and teach the children around you. Practice makes it better : )

You may not have a child with special needs, but I am sure you know at least one person that you care about who has this issue close to her heart. Do it for that person please. 

God Bless you!

A Mom

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Totes Real Tuesday

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Where you post a few things about your week or yourself that are totally real and down and dirty - something to keep you true to yourself and your intended purpose of blogging. To encourage us all to give up the need to be "as" 's - as good as, as crafty as, as skinny as, as witty as, as many followers as - anyone other than ourselves.

Totes Real Tuesday?
1. I've totally got too much stuff to do to blog today. Like, totes.  Will try the link up thing again next week.

How To Be A Good Mother

Wikipedia describes Mother's Day as a "celebration honoring mothers and motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society." It is always celebrated on the second Sunday in May.

Today, May 12, 2013, just so happens to be the second Sunday in May! I don't have everyone's address to send them a card, so I figured I'd write a blog post instead. 

                                                   

First, to my mama, I wish you the very happiest Mother's Day! I will never forget the things you have sacrificed in your life for me and I am inspired by your determination and your desire to always learn new things. We are so much alike and even though we don't have the mother daughter relationship that they write about in books, we have OUR relationship and I love you.

 To my four older, wiser, beautiful sisters - I love each of you. All of you have taken your turn at mothering me at some point in my life and I've learned so many life lessons from you. Being the youngest (waaaay youngest I might add :) in a family of six, with four of my five siblings being sisters, has afforded me a unique position in life. I've got four extra mothers to nag me, encourage me, worry about me, and love me. I also have four extra mothers that I never want to disappoint. Julie, Damita, Veronica, and Amanda - I love you and I hope I make you proud.

I'm pretty sure that I've always wanted to be a mother, but I've only felt the aching need to be a mother for the last two years or so. Now, with the changes I've recently experienced, there is a fear that this need may not be met. But, I trust in God and His plan. If I am meant to be a mother, then It will happen. While I beg God to hurry up His timing patiently wait for my turn at this season in life, I am blessed to be able to learn just what a great mother is because I am surrounded by so many wonderful, wonderful mothers. I observe them and try my best to learn from them. I've created a little "How To" list based on what I have seen from my family and friends. 

How to Be A Good Mother 

Be True to Yourself and Worry Only About What's Right For Your Family

I learned this from my mom. She is unique - intelligent and artsy and funny in her own way. She has never strived to be "just like" any other mom. She has told me more than once to just "not worry about what anyone else thinks." In this day of Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest where we can easily compare birthday parties, kids talents, homes, cars, clothes - I think this is one of the most important things to remember. 

Let Your Children Change Your Life

I have many friends and family members that I have been privileged to observe as they enter the world of mommy hood. It changes you. Friends who once followed a strict schedule are now making on the fly changes because the baby is sleeping or eating or needs to sleep or eat. Putting off the dishes or laundry because the giggles coming from their little love are just too cute to stop. I've seen friends go from "I'm not so sure I want this" to "I am utterly in love" in seconds. No more night life. No more living life just for you. You now have these little things that look like you and the need you, so you make the changes that are necessary.

Teach Your Children About Your Faith

I have friends who tell their daughters every night as they lay them in bed "God has a plan for you" - something so simple but so true and poignant, and something those girls will always hear and know. I think it is one thing to take your children to church, but another thing altogether to have church in your home. 

Teach Your Children Right From Wrong

Disciplining children can take on many forms. Some of my friends spank occasionally.  Some use the time out method. Others talk it out or use a reinforcement method. The common thing I've seen is just that you do it. I know I grew up knowing how to behave in public because I knew what my mom expected of me. I may be biased, but I think that I have amazing nieces and nephews - not one of them has ever really been in trouble - because they were taught from the very beginning of what behaviors are ok or not ok. One of my good friends here is the mom of three beautiful boys. Sometimes I visit with her and the boys when her husband is working nights. I sit back and I'm amazed at how she handles them. She gives them the right amount of firm direction and loving praise. She can (most of the time, they are boys after all) stop their  unwanted behavior in one firm "Boys!". I think today's society has a different view of right and wrong. Anyone can justify hurting others or can be forgiven for bad decisions just by saying "I'm sorry". I am so thankful that I am surrounded by mothers who want their children to be different than society's standards.

Show Your Children How to Love
Date nights with their spouses/partners. Speaking kindly and lovingly of others in front of their children. Giving to those who need. Opening their home to those who need one. Loving another woman's children as much as they love their own. Thinking to include a sad and lonely friend on family activities. Allowing a sister/friend to just cry it out. Accepting others.
Whether it be to their spouses/partners, people in their church or community, or me - I am blessed to be surrounded by women who truly exemplify love. They are ensuring that their children will grow up to show this love as well.

Go on Adventures with Your Children
My friend told me the other day how much she was looking forward to a summer at the beach with her young daughter - "she is old enough to remember this time and I never want her to forget it". Others have had cross country road trips, been on cruises, or toured museums and historic places. Adventures can also be in your own backyard - my mom is famous for her backyard camping and trips to the woods to look for treasures! Adventures make for memories and at some point, memories will be all that we have of each other.

See Your Children for their Cans, Not Their Cannots
This lesson has mostly been taught to me by the moms that I work with - those moms of children who have different or special needs. Everyday their children are pitted against the "norm" - some have endured it since their child was born. I'm sure it can make for an exhausting and disheartening life. If these moms were to focus on what their children can't do - it would be unbearable for them to go on. Instead, they focus on the things that make their child amazing - she can't run and tumble, but she CAN do the cutest little booty-in-the chair dance you've ever seen, he can't be in a crowd without holding his hands over his ears and humming, but he CAN show you how to look at the world with completely different perspective, she can't say "I love you mommy", but she CAN say that and so much more by just the smile on her face.

Never Give Stop Fighting For Your Children
I've learned this too from my families that I work with - IEP meetings, doctor's visits, therapies, insurance denials - the fight never ends. Your child deserves what is very best for her - and you are the one who is in charge of seeing that she gets it. You will do whatever it takes. This is also being exemplified in a family that is very special to me. The circumstances are a little different as the child is older, but I have seen this mother love her child through so much. Even when he hurts her, she loves him still and will do anything at all to help him get better. She is amazing. No, never stop fighting for your children, even when they are grown. Sometimes they need you to fight alongside them.

Create a Legacy for Your Children
Unfortunately, I have some very dear friends who have lost their mothers. All were in late teenage or early adulthood years and have had to face some major milestones without their mothers. I always think of them on this day and my heart breaks for them. I hope they know how amazed I am by them. But I know this about them - they are the amazing women they are today because of their mothers. I was lucky enough to meet one of these ladies but I wasn't blessed with the chance to meet the other. The thing is, I know that my friends are who they are because of their moms because I hear them talk. I hear them talk about "rice nights" where the family only ate rice so they would be mindful of others who had so little or of how Miss Sarah took care of her own mother and mother in law while she herself was sick with cancer. I hear them talk so lovingly of their moms. But, I see them too. I see how Katie dresses her girls and does their hair and tells them stories of how her mama used to do the same with her and her sisters. I see how Meg works tirelessly to care for and love her two boys while also having a full time job and dealing with a difficult schedule as her husband finishes his fellowship. She does it because it has to be done and she does it because she knows she can handle it. She is her mother's daughter.
I see this too in my sweet nieces - the two of them who now have children of their own. They love being mommies and I think they are very good at it. They learned from their mama - my sister who learned from her mama and her grand-mama. It's a never ending circle, you see. Do good things and you will yield good things.


Happy Mother's Day to every mother in my life - I am so thankful to have each of you to one day mold my life after!

With love always,
Christy